Does God Like Me?

Posted by admin in October 29th, 2008
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All my life I have lived with a strong sense that God is always angry with me. I mean, mad at me. You know, ticked off. I struggled even being a Christian for the first half of my life. It wasn’t that I didn’t believe in God–I did. It wasn’t that I didn’t believe in the Bible–I did. It wasn’t that I didn’t love God–I did. It was just so hard to appease the God; to find favor with Him. At 21, I was blessed to have an incredible, supernatural experience with the Holy Spirit that changed my life forever. (And my family’s life as well). Call it what you want–Baptism of the Holy Spirit, Sanctification, being “Tim LaHaye” filled with the Spirit–all I know was that once I was blind and now I see. Through that experience I was able to believe that Jesus loved me. Jesus, my Savior, my King, my Beautiful Elder Brother, my Lord, my High Priest, my Advocate really loved me. No doubts. But God, well, that was a whole ‘nother matter.

The great theologian Lewis Smedes (1921-2002) in his autobiography My God and I shares how he lived his whole life believing that God was always angry with him. He writes so poignantly about his struggle to accept God’s love. His wife played a major role in his ability to believe in God’s grace. It was through her love for Smedes and her life with him that Smedes accepted “by faith” that God really did love him. She was the evidence in his life that only a loving and accepting God would give him such a gift as her.

Mother Teresa struggled greatly with the idea that God hated her. In the book, Mother Teresa: Come Be My Light in which her letters are published, she writes, “Lord, my God, who am I that You should forsake me? The child of Your love–and now become as the most hated one–the one You have thrown away as unwanted…unloved. I call, I cling, I want and there is no One to answer–no One on Whom I can cling. No, no One. Alone. The darkness is so dark and I am alone. Unwanted, forsaken. The loneliness of the heart that wants love is unbearable…I trust that all (the pain, the loneliness, the suffering) will end in Heaven with Jesus” (p. 187). The book states that Mother Teresa suffered this pain and rejection from 1948 until her death in 1997. She loved. She smiled. She ministered. She served. She spoke with fervent passion and conviction and all the while she suffered with this feeling of isolation and rejection from her Heavenly Father. That to me seems like a tremendous weight to bear.

Of course, I can’t leave out St. John of the Cross. You know, the 16th century Spanish priest who wrote The Dark Night of the Soul? St. John of the Cross explained the dark night as a time when prayer is extremely difficult; a sense that God has abandoned the Believer. But he said that it was a blessing in disguise teaching the follower of Christ to walk by faith, not by the senses. SJC believed the dark night of the soul was a type of “purification of the senses.” Though I cannot imagine Mother Teresa needing such a purification.

In my own life the feeling that God is angry at me also manifests itself in the strong sense that God just doesn’t like me. Does it stem from my Mom’s constant proclamation, “I will always love you Teri, but I don’t have to like you”? Did Smedes struggle with father issues in his childhood? Surely not Mother Teresa. I think it is greater and goes deeper than some hidden away psychosomatic issues about childhood and parental mistakes. I think it relates to what CS Lewis calls “the weight of glory.” Some of us, for whatever reasons, struggle with God’s acceptance and love for us. Some of us who follow Christ struggle with a real sense of God’s approval of us. Not because of some sin in our past, or because we don’t feel worthy, but because we are incapable of it. Maybe this is the thorn in the flesh God Himself has chosen for us to bear. Perhaps this is the weight we carry so that we do walk by faith and not by sight. Perhaps this weight keeps us broken and prevents us from straying from the Shepherd.

In CS Lewis’s sermon (June 8, 1942, Church of St. Mary the Virgin, Oxford) titled “The Weight of Glory” he refers to the parable found in Matthew 25. Lewis said, “Glory suggests…approval by God…I saw that this view was scriptural; nothing can eliminate from the parable the divine accolade, ‘Well done, thou good and faithful servant’…And that is enough to raise our thoughts to what may happen when the redeemed soul, beyond all hope and nearly beyond belief, learns at last that she has pleased Him Whom she was created to please…With no taint of what we should now call self-approval she will most innocently rejoice in the thing that God has made her to be, and the moment which heals her old inferiority complex for ever…”

I look forward to the day when I see my Heavenly Father and I look upon His face and see perfectly well His love and acceptance of me. My heart is anchored to heaven as a result of the weight I carry knowing that one day in just one moment I will, along with so many others, most innocently rejoice in the thing that God has made me to be and by faith I will hear those words of approval, “Well done thou good and faithful servant…enter into the joy of your Master.” Peace.

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406. JiHyeKim said,
June 9th, 2010 at 4:14 pm

I met you at Letournau chapel back in February (about this time next year.. North Korea) and you suggested me to read this post.. I did and I didn’t really get it back then..
Tomorrow is my birthday and God has spoken to accept His love a few days ago and realized how much I don’t like myself.. And then I was reminded of your post and WOW! It just touched me so~ and cried a lot too : )
Ever since I took Jesus as my everything 2 years ago, it has been my deep desire to hear the words of “well done ” once I go to heaven..That is what drives me to want to obey Him wholeheartedly for the rest of my life.. (and 5 months ago God told me this directly through another person that He will tell me “good job” and I will bring many fruits to Him which encouraged me so much)
I wish I can accept His love.. have struggled all my life and I’m 25^^
I totally agree that I do believe in Him and that I do love Him too..

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